怎樣有效轉移話題
Answer and then immediately pivot.
回答問題后立刻轉移話題。
If you can pivot to something people will want to talk about, so much the better.
如果能轉移到人們想談論的話題上，那就再好不過了。
For example, your family member asks you "What should we do about Syrian refugees?" and you don't really want to get into a fight.
比如，家人問你；“我們該怎么應對敘利亞難民？”你真的不想引起爭執的話。
"I think we should be a welcoming country. For example, Donald Trump is the son of an immigrant, and a couple of his wives are immigrants too. I think a more urgent problem is the decline of the American family, celebrity culture and throwaway marriages..."
就說：“我認為我們國家應該開放，比如唐納德·特朗普是移民的兒子，他的幾任夫人也都是移民。我覺得更緊迫的問題是美國家庭的衰退，名人文化和隨意的婚姻……”
A great technique is just to use the connector "yes, and…." or "yes you’re absolutely right and….."—you can then alter the conversation as you wish.
有一招很好用，就是只說過渡語“是的，而且……”或“是的，你說的很對，而且……”，然后你就可以隨意轉移話題了。
By using such agreeable words, the brain is more likely to accept whatever comes next—it isn’t primed to critique or defend and is therefore much more accepting of a change.
通過使用類似表示贊同的詞，大腦更有可能接受接下來的內容——這樣說不是為了批評或辯護，因此更容易讓人接受話題的轉變。
When dealing with challenging people who are a little difficult or perhaps speaking out of turn, the tip that I give is to turn a stupid question into a new conversation.
遇上不好對付的人時，比如這個人不隨和或說話很魯莽，那我給你的建議就是把愚蠢的問題換成新對話。
The way you do this is to focus on the person who is speaking.
你可以把焦點轉移到正在說話的人身上。
People love to talk about themselves, so the way to change a conversation without them noticing is to ask them a question about themselves—whether it’s maybe a recent vacation or something about their children or grandchildren or something they like to do.
人們喜歡聊關于自己的事，所以轉移話題還不引起對方注意的方法就是問一個關于對方的問題——可以問對方最近的假期或關于他們孩子或孫子的事，或他們喜歡做的事。
Whatever it is, turn the focus on them rather than you, that way it’s not so noticeable.
無論談什么，都要把焦點放在他們身上而不是你身上，這樣就不會引起對方注意了。
Answer and then immediately pivot.
回答問題后立刻轉移話題。
If you can pivot to something people will want to talk about, so much the better.
如果能轉移到人們想談論的話題上，那就再好不過了。
For example, your family member asks you "What should we do about Syrian refugees?" and you don't really want to get into a fight.
比如，家人問你；“我們該怎么應對敘利亞難民？”你真的不想引起爭執的話。
"I think we should be a welcoming country. For example, Donald Trump is the son of an immigrant, and a couple of his wives are immigrants too. I think a more urgent problem is the decline of the American family, celebrity culture and throwaway marriages..."
就說：“我認為我們國家應該開放，比如唐納德·特朗普是移民的兒子，他的幾任夫人也都是移民。我覺得更緊迫的問題是美國家庭的衰退，名人文化和隨意的婚姻……”
A great technique is just to use the connector "yes, and…." or "yes you’re absolutely right and….."—you can then alter the conversation as you wish.
有一招很好用，就是只說過渡語“是的，而且……”或“是的，你說的很對，而且……”，然后你就可以隨意轉移話題了。
By using such agreeable words, the brain is more likely to accept whatever comes next—it isn’t primed to critique or defend and is therefore much more accepting of a change.
通過使用類似表示贊同的詞，大腦更有可能接受接下來的內容——這樣說不是為了批評或辯護，因此更容易讓人接受話題的轉變。
When dealing with challenging people who are a little difficult or perhaps speaking out of turn, the tip that I give is to turn a stupid question into a new conversation.
遇上不好對付的人時，比如這個人不隨和或說話很魯莽，那我給你的建議就是把愚蠢的問題換成新對話。
The way you do this is to focus on the person who is speaking.
你可以把焦點轉移到正在說話的人身上。
People love to talk about themselves, so the way to change a conversation without them noticing is to ask them a question about themselves—whether it’s maybe a recent vacation or something about their children or grandchildren or something they like to do.
人們喜歡聊關于自己的事，所以轉移話題還不引起對方注意的方法就是問一個關于對方的問題——可以問對方最近的假期或關于他們孩子或孫子的事，或他們喜歡做的事。
Whatever it is, turn the focus on them rather than you, that way it’s not so noticeable.
無論談什么，都要把焦點放在他們身上而不是你身上，這樣就不會引起對方注意了。
