We all want others to like us. Deep down in our hearts we all want to feel supported, respected, and, most importantly, loved.

我們都希望別人喜歡自己。內心深處，我們都渴望被支持、被尊重，更重要的是，被愛。

Yet, unfortunately, for many of us this is much easier said then done. We can feel like we always fall short in finding this love that we so desire to experience.

然而不幸的是，對很多人來說，這說起來容易做起來難。我們覺得總是找不到自己渴望擁有的愛。

Here's the thing: Many of us waste our energy on things that aren't really positively serving us. We worry about whether someone will like us or not. We obsess about a past relationship that didn't work. We go on a first date with this underlying fear of "Will I be rejected?"

事實是這樣：很多人把精力浪費在對我們沒有幫助的事情上。我們擔心某人是否喜歡自己;我們執(zhí)著于一段不歡而散的感情;初次約會時，我們心里一直想著：“我會被拒絕嗎?”

The trouble is that when we do these things, we allow all these things to suck away our energy, which prevents us from truly standing in our own unique power.

問題是，當我們這么做的時候，我們讓這些瑣事吸取了自己的精力，阻礙我們真正屹立于自己獨特的力量中。

And you know what? It's not very attractive. Other people can feel that energy and they know and feel your fear.

而且你知道嗎?這樣可是非常沒有魅力的。別人感受得到這種力量，他們能感覺到你的恐懼。

So what can we do to truly love and have more confidence in ourselves so that we can truly be irresistibly attractive?

那么我們要怎么做才能真正學會愛、能更有自信、變得更有魅力呢?

1、Take care of yourself.照顧好自己

Go out and exercise. Eat healthy. Take the time periodically check-in with your body. If you feel exhausted, then take the time to rest. If you feel energized then make sure you get out there and channel that energy into some great work or work out!

出門鍛煉、健康飲食、定期花時間做體檢。如果感到累了，就停下來休息一會兒。如果感到精力充沛，就出門走走，把精力花在工作或是健身上。

2、Do what you love to do.做自己喜歡的事

Even though we can't always control avoiding the things that we hate to do, we can find time to do the things that we love to do! If you've always wanted to learn how to paint, then start painting. If you love dancing, then go out dancing!

即使我們不能永遠避免做自己討厭的事，我們也要抽出時間來做自己喜歡的事。要是你想學畫畫已經想了很久了，那么就拿起畫筆吧!如果你愛跳舞，你可以趕緊跳起來啊!

3、Believe in you.相信自己

Believe that you are capable of really having what your heart desires. Believe that you do truly deserve love. Know that you are good enough... you are worthy!

相信自己能得到心之所向，相信自己值得被愛，相信自己足夠優(yōu)秀，值得一切!

We all want others to like us. Deep down in our hearts we all want to feel supported, respected, and, most importantly, loved.

我們都希望別人喜歡自己。內心深處，我們都渴望被支持、被尊重，更重要的是，被愛。

Yet, unfortunately, for many of us this is much easier said then done. We can feel like we always fall short in finding this love that we so desire to experience.

然而不幸的是，對很多人來說，這說起來容易做起來難。我們覺得總是找不到自己渴望擁有的愛。

Here's the thing: Many of us waste our energy on things that aren't really positively serving us. We worry about whether someone will like us or not. We obsess about a past relationship that didn't work. We go on a first date with this underlying fear of "Will I be rejected?"

事實是這樣：很多人把精力浪費在對我們沒有幫助的事情上。我們擔心某人是否喜歡自己;我們執(zhí)著于一段不歡而散的感情;初次約會時，我們心里一直想著：“我會被拒絕嗎?”

The trouble is that when we do these things, we allow all these things to suck away our energy, which prevents us from truly standing in our own unique power.

問題是，當我們這么做的時候，我們讓這些瑣事吸取了自己的精力，阻礙我們真正屹立于自己獨特的力量中。

And you know what? It's not very attractive. Other people can feel that energy and they know and feel your fear.

而且你知道嗎?這樣可是非常沒有魅力的。別人感受得到這種力量，他們能感覺到你的恐懼。

So what can we do to truly love and have more confidence in ourselves so that we can truly be irresistibly attractive?

那么我們要怎么做才能真正學會愛、能更有自信、變得更有魅力呢?

1、Take care of yourself.照顧好自己

Go out and exercise. Eat healthy. Take the time periodically check-in with your body. If you feel exhausted, then take the time to rest. If you feel energized then make sure you get out there and channel that energy into some great work or work out!

出門鍛煉、健康飲食、定期花時間做體檢。如果感到累了，就停下來休息一會兒。如果感到精力充沛，就出門走走，把精力花在工作或是健身上。

2、Do what you love to do.做自己喜歡的事

Even though we can't always control avoiding the things that we hate to do, we can find time to do the things that we love to do! If you've always wanted to learn how to paint, then start painting. If you love dancing, then go out dancing!

即使我們不能永遠避免做自己討厭的事，我們也要抽出時間來做自己喜歡的事。要是你想學畫畫已經想了很久了，那么就拿起畫筆吧!如果你愛跳舞，你可以趕緊跳起來啊!

3、Believe in you.相信自己

Believe that you are capable of really having what your heart desires. Believe that you do truly deserve love. Know that you are good enough... you are worthy!

相信自己能得到心之所向，相信自己值得被愛，相信自己足夠優(yōu)秀，值得一切!