Dreary feelings like confusion, frustration, tension, and sadness are some of the feelings we experience when we are out of balance. Love is an essential part of life, especially on Valentines Day. Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit, wrote Khalil Gibran. 當我們失去平衡，感覺生活如此沉悶：混亂、沮喪、緊張、悲傷----種種襲上心頭。愛情是生活中不可或缺的部分，尤其是在情人節這天。紀伯倫說：生命中沒有愛情，就像樹上沒有花朵和果實。 Finding the one big love has always been an uphill battle. Think of this: there are approximately three billion men and women on the planet. Eliminating the old, the young and the already committed, this still leaves a substantial potential pool of perfectly precious people. 找到屬于你的真愛素來是一場苦戰。只需想一下：這個星球上大約有30億男人和女人，除了老幼和已經作出愛情承諾的，仍然剩有大量優秀完美的潛力股可供選擇。 Love is the most beautiful feeling. It thrills the heart including other organs. So, do not bite your nails worrying, with the appropriate behavior, here are some tips on how to find love before Valentines Day. 愛情是最美好的情感，它令人身心振奮。因此，不要再咬手指甲憂慮重重了，拿出正確的行動來，這里告訴你幾個如何在情人節前找到愛情的小竅門： Be fresh.

清新可人。 Be clean and neat, inside and out. The feeling of cleanliness makes you comfortable to huddle up or to get close with anyone. 要從內到外干凈整潔，這樣可以使你與任何人接近時都令人愉悅。 Do not put your image down.

不要降低你的預想。 The first ingredient to dating success is self-confidence. In short, if you cannot convince yourself that you are such a charming, and appealing person, how can you convince others? Get rid of negative subconscious messages inside of you. Forget thoughts like I am fat, I stammer, or I am short in height. However, do not over do it, you might end up conceited or arrogant. Just be kind to yourself. 成功約會的首要因素是自信。簡言之，如果你都不認為自己引人注目、富有魅力，你又怎能讓別人相信呢?排除掉內心深處那些潛意識里的消極念頭，忘記諸如此類的想法：我很胖、我有些口吃或者我長得太矮了。當然，也不要太過，那樣你會自負或者傲慢。只需對自己寬容一些。 Be interesting and interested.

保持好奇心。 You may not be very interested in computer games and you may want to hear more tips on cross-stitching, however, if you are open to the potentials in someone elses world, you can find new and interesting surprises. Ask questionsthis is the best cure for the anxiety of wondering what to talk about--or you can prepare a few in advance. Likewise, be a good listener. A great conversation is a good blend of talking and listening. 你可能對電腦游戲不是很有興趣，你可能想聽更多關于十字繡的小竅門，但是，如果你對他人的世界開放內心，保持好奇，你會有很多新奇有趣的收獲。如果聽不懂在談論什么，那么提問是最好的處理方式，或者你要事先要做好準備工作。還有，做一個好的傾聽者。一場成功的談話是傾訴與傾聽的完美結合。 Make first contact short.

首次接觸時間要短。 Lunch date is brilliant. If it ends great, it means both of you want more. If it ends otherwise, the next thing to do is to wave goodbye. Remember, dating is gaining experience. Dating is a gracious activity. 午餐約會最為合適。如果完美收場，意味著你們兩個都想進一步接觸。否則，下一步就是要說再見了。記住：約會是為了獲取經驗。約會是高尚之舉。 Be yourself.

做你自己。 Most people try to be someone elseusually a smarter, more likeable, more compelling version of themselves. Do not impart your darkest secrets or provide a detailed list of your worst fears. Be yourself means being you, without fretting about your perfection percentage. Things that make a first date truly memorable are the mental more than the physical connections. 很多人想成為另一個人---常常是比自己更聰明、更可愛、更引人注目的一個人。不要告訴別人你內心深處的秘密，或者最令你恐懼的事情。做你自己意味著不必為了身體比例不完美而煩惱。使第一次約會真正難忘的不是身材，而是內心的交流。 Breathe. Relax.

呼吸。放松。 Do feel desperate if your date is not a contender for the Big Time. Appreciate the fact that your date took the time to meet you. If your date is not interesting enough, then it is time to move on. 如果你的約會敵不過BIG TIME表演節目，的確令人絕望。承認這樣的事實：約會使你得到滿足。如果約會并不十分滿意，那么就繼續前行。 When will love come? Some find love late. Some find love soon. Some find love with the rose in May and some with the nightingale in June, wrote Pakenham Beatty. 愛情何時降臨?有人很快就能找到，有人遲遲無法獲得。 Pakenham Beatty說：當愛情來臨，有人看到五月的玫瑰，有人聽到六月的夜鶯。 Dating is the look-see encounter. If the person wins your heart, or vice-versa, then your Valentines Day will be special. If not, look back at the experience with appreciation and respect. For some love sings, for some love sighs, for some loves lips are dumb, added Pakenham Beatty. 約會就是見面會。如果那人贏得你的芳心，或者反之，那么你的情人節將會非常別致了。如果沒有，正確總結經驗。Pakenham Beatty還說：有的愛歌唱，有的愛嘆息，有的愛不語。

Dreary feelings like confusion, frustration, tension, and sadness are some of the feelings we experience when we are out of balance. Love is an essential part of life, especially on Valentines Day. Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit, wrote Khalil Gibran. 當我們失去平衡，感覺生活如此沉悶：混亂、沮喪、緊張、悲傷----種種襲上心頭。愛情是生活中不可或缺的部分，尤其是在情人節這天。紀伯倫說：生命中沒有愛情，就像樹上沒有花朵和果實。 Finding the one big love has always been an uphill battle. Think of this: there are approximately three billion men and women on the planet. Eliminating the old, the young and the already committed, this still leaves a substantial potential pool of perfectly precious people. 找到屬于你的真愛素來是一場苦戰。只需想一下：這個星球上大約有30億男人和女人，除了老幼和已經作出愛情承諾的，仍然剩有大量優秀完美的潛力股可供選擇。 Love is the most beautiful feeling. It thrills the heart including other organs. So, do not bite your nails worrying, with the appropriate behavior, here are some tips on how to find love before Valentines Day. 愛情是最美好的情感，它令人身心振奮。因此，不要再咬手指甲憂慮重重了，拿出正確的行動來，這里告訴你幾個如何在情人節前找到愛情的小竅門： Be fresh.

清新可人。 Be clean and neat, inside and out. The feeling of cleanliness makes you comfortable to huddle up or to get close with anyone. 要從內到外干凈整潔，這樣可以使你與任何人接近時都令人愉悅。 Do not put your image down.

不要降低你的預想。 The first ingredient to dating success is self-confidence. In short, if you cannot convince yourself that you are such a charming, and appealing person, how can you convince others? Get rid of negative subconscious messages inside of you. Forget thoughts like I am fat, I stammer, or I am short in height. However, do not over do it, you might end up conceited or arrogant. Just be kind to yourself. 成功約會的首要因素是自信。簡言之，如果你都不認為自己引人注目、富有魅力，你又怎能讓別人相信呢?排除掉內心深處那些潛意識里的消極念頭，忘記諸如此類的想法：我很胖、我有些口吃或者我長得太矮了。當然，也不要太過，那樣你會自負或者傲慢。只需對自己寬容一些。 Be interesting and interested.

保持好奇心。 You may not be very interested in computer games and you may want to hear more tips on cross-stitching, however, if you are open to the potentials in someone elses world, you can find new and interesting surprises. Ask questionsthis is the best cure for the anxiety of wondering what to talk about--or you can prepare a few in advance. Likewise, be a good listener. A great conversation is a good blend of talking and listening. 你可能對電腦游戲不是很有興趣，你可能想聽更多關于十字繡的小竅門，但是，如果你對他人的世界開放內心，保持好奇，你會有很多新奇有趣的收獲。如果聽不懂在談論什么，那么提問是最好的處理方式，或者你要事先要做好準備工作。還有，做一個好的傾聽者。一場成功的談話是傾訴與傾聽的完美結合。 Make first contact short.

首次接觸時間要短。 Lunch date is brilliant. If it ends great, it means both of you want more. If it ends otherwise, the next thing to do is to wave goodbye. Remember, dating is gaining experience. Dating is a gracious activity. 午餐約會最為合適。如果完美收場，意味著你們兩個都想進一步接觸。否則，下一步就是要說再見了。記住：約會是為了獲取經驗。約會是高尚之舉。 Be yourself.

做你自己。 Most people try to be someone elseusually a smarter, more likeable, more compelling version of themselves. Do not impart your darkest secrets or provide a detailed list of your worst fears. Be yourself means being you, without fretting about your perfection percentage. Things that make a first date truly memorable are the mental more than the physical connections. 很多人想成為另一個人---常常是比自己更聰明、更可愛、更引人注目的一個人。不要告訴別人你內心深處的秘密，或者最令你恐懼的事情。做你自己意味著不必為了身體比例不完美而煩惱。使第一次約會真正難忘的不是身材，而是內心的交流。 Breathe. Relax.

呼吸。放松。 Do feel desperate if your date is not a contender for the Big Time. Appreciate the fact that your date took the time to meet you. If your date is not interesting enough, then it is time to move on. 如果你的約會敵不過BIG TIME表演節目，的確令人絕望。承認這樣的事實：約會使你得到滿足。如果約會并不十分滿意，那么就繼續前行。 When will love come? Some find love late. Some find love soon. Some find love with the rose in May and some with the nightingale in June, wrote Pakenham Beatty. 愛情何時降臨?有人很快就能找到，有人遲遲無法獲得。 Pakenham Beatty說：當愛情來臨，有人看到五月的玫瑰，有人聽到六月的夜鶯。 Dating is the look-see encounter. If the person wins your heart, or vice-versa, then your Valentines Day will be special. If not, look back at the experience with appreciation and respect. For some love sings, for some love sighs, for some loves lips are dumb, added Pakenham Beatty. 約會就是見面會。如果那人贏得你的芳心，或者反之，那么你的情人節將會非常別致了。如果沒有，正確總結經驗。Pakenham Beatty還說：有的愛歌唱，有的愛嘆息，有的愛不語。