It took me 10 years to get back the confidence I had at 19 and to realize that I didn t want to deal with gender issues.

　　分析主干：It took me 10 years to get back... and to realize...

　　句首的It 是形式主語(yǔ)，真正的主語(yǔ)是and 并列的兩個(gè)動(dòng)詞不定式。第一個(gè)不定式to get back 的賓語(yǔ)the confidence 后有一個(gè)定語(yǔ)從句I had at 19 對(duì)它加以修飾。第二個(gè)不定式to realize 帶了一個(gè)賓語(yǔ)從句，由that 引導(dǎo)。

　　譯文：我花了10 年的時(shí)間才找回了我19 歲時(shí)的自信，才意識(shí)到我本不想談?wù)撔詣e問(wèn)題。