It took me 10 years to get back the confidence I had at 19 and to realize that I didn t want to deal with gender issues.

　　分析主干：It took me 10 years to get back... and to realize...

　　句首的It 是形式主語，真正的主語是and 并列的兩個動詞不定式。第一個不定式to get back 的賓語the confidence 后有一個定語從句I had at 19 對它加以修飾。第二個不定式to realize 帶了一個賓語從句，由that 引導(dǎo)。

　　譯文：我花了10 年的時間才找回了我19 歲時的自信，才意識到我本不想談?wù)撔詣e問題。